If you took a survey of parents of young children and you asked them what success looked like for their child when they became an adult, what do you think they’d say?
Well, I think that they’d say they wanted them to be happy, successful in a career or job that they enjoyed. Maybe some would say that they’d make plenty of money so they wouldn’t ‘want” for anything. Maybe some would say married with children or own a house and a car. Well, whatever your definition of success in life is, the question remains…how do I get my child to that place.
Wow, what a good question. If only there were an instruction manual that came with the child when they were born. You know, like you get when you go to Ikea and purchase a set of shelves. only way better.
So, let’s explore how you can guide your children to becoming that successful adult.
First off, I’ve seen, in my many years of working with children, far too many adults who don’t know the answer to this question. And the reason I know they didn’t know, is because of how they let their children treat them.
Successful adult children are not allowed to be the boss of their parents. You won’t believe how many children I see that are allowed to be the boss of their parents. Parents end up bowing to the small 4 year old child instead of being the parent. They ask them what they want to eat and what they want to do, when then want to go to sleep and whether or not they want to go to school, etc.
Successful adult children have learned that they don’t always get their way. And they start learning this as young children who don’t always get their way. Now, I’m not saying you can’t allow your child to get what they want sometimes. But as a parent you need to be the one in control guiding them and giving them the choices that are appropriate for a young child to make. I could write a whole book on this topic but suffice it to say, if you want your child to be successful as an adult, then make sure they know that you are the boss and you control the choices.
Stay tuned to my blog for more on this subject. But if all parents could get a grasp on this one secret to success they would see a big difference in their children and be setting them on the path for success. And, after all, isn’t that what we want for our children?
Keep honing those parenting skills!